Overcoming the sexuality barrier

I'll be the first to admit I still have plenty to learn about dating Korean women. There's a lot of socio-religious programming to overcome, on top of their cultural timidity. Once we're having relations everything's gravy, but getting there... getting there's the trick.

One of the major hurdles I face with every new k-girl I take on a date is crossing the sexuality barrier. It's still an area that I'm feeling out and have had some minor successes with. IME a lot of what's worked for me is talking about sex in a circular fashion-- if I can get them thinking about sex and me at the same time then I'm in good shape. :-)

For example, with one of the girls I'm currently dating (but have not yet slept with; that's in the mail, though) I lead the conversation towards sex and relationships innocently enough: I asked her what the korean word for "kiss" is (it's "kiss," aptly enough), which lead to a conversation about dirty words in English and in Korean (she was really adamant about NOT teaching me the really dirty words).

That conversation got me thinking about kissing her, so I told her I was thinking of kissing her (not that I would kiss her RIGHT THEN, just that I was thinking about it). She got SUPER shy/self-conscious at that point, so I switched topics to something lighter.

Later on while dropping her off at her place the mood felt right in our parting conversation, so I asked if she wanted to kiss me goodbye. She didn't say "no," she just kind of sat there, so I slowly lead her into a little makeout session in the darkness of my car. I stopped it after a couple of minutes because logistics weren't right (busy work week) and let her go on her merry way.

Dollars to donuts we're probably going to hook up on date numero tres if I can lock down the logistics so we have privacy. Maybe she'll teach me some dirty Korean words then. :-D

...and for those that are counting, we've known each other for a grand total of 4 hours now. Not that it matters THAT much, but the bean counters like that kind of info. ;-)

I'm curious to hear what you've found works best for you. Please post your stories in the comments!