Direct Sexual Game: My Two Cents

On one of the message boards I frequent a question of how to develop "Direct Sexual" game came up. Now personally I've been paring down elements of what I do in relation to girls, discarding what doesn't work and keeping what does. My $0.02 from that discussion board follows:

My current style is very playful indirect and I want to try out a very sexual direct style.

The Sexual BT seems lacking. We may makeout, but I don't often feel the "I want to take it back to your place" vibe.

What's your end goal for any given interaction? Is it the club makeout? Or is it to take a girl home? The two goals are mutually exclusive, IME.

Here's another angle to look at things: How slutty are you making the girl look in front of her friends? That's a more direct correlation to whether you'll be taking her home that night. If you're having sloppy makeout sessions in the middle of her group I can almost guarantee you won't be taking her home.

After an interaction and exchange of contact information, they come out for a Day 2 because I hype it up like crazy and they know they will have a good time with me. They come back to my place and sex happens with no LMR. If not on the Day 2, then usually by Day 3.

It feels like they say to themselves, "It just happened," instead of "I couldn't wait to fuck him."

I don't see where the problem lies here. You should be removing all responsibility for the sex from their shoulders anyways. "Plausible deniability" and all that, at least on the surface. It's easier for girls to explain to their girlfriends that "it just happened," so just run with it.

Girls know EXACTLY what they're doing when they enter your house, when they ALLOW you to use their bathroom "real quick", when they join you "just for a quick drink." They're not stupid, BUT they DO need to still "save face" to prevent being branded with the Scarlet Letter.

If you have found experiences or successes with a Sexual Direct style, would you give me some pointers?

Anything from openers, lines/routines, body language, tonality, things to do on Day 2's, conversation styles, mindset, and/or anything else you feel is relevant is appreciated. I'm open to everything and am all ears.

IMO, "Sexual Direct" is where everyone's game should be evolving towards. There are no "openers" or routines, you simply "Are."

The ingredients, IME:

1. ROCK-SOLID Inner Game
2. Outcome Independence (which is tied in to Inner Game)
3. SOLID Body Language (which includes Eye Contact and vocal tonality)
4. Smooth, ninja-like kinoescalation
5. Social savvy

IME you reach this state through experience, it's not something that's taught, per se. Some notes, in no particular order:

-It's a very efficient mode to operate from. You're not necessarily looking for anything on a given night, but if opportunities present themselves you act on them. Otherwise you're out having fun on your terms.

-When you get enough "IOIs," aka she's invested in your interaction, you kinoescalate smoothly. Now by smoothly I mean you do it out of the line-of-sight of her social circle, and you do it assertively but NOT aggressively. There's also an element of 2 steps forward/1 step back and pull/push. Everything is geared towards making her feel comfortable with you and PROTECTING HER FROM THE JUDGMENT OF HER FRIENDS.

-You figure out VERY QUICKLY if a girl is into you. I do this by testing her hands. THE HANDS NEVER LIE. EVER. If she's not in to me I just cut the interaction and move on. Saves me precious minutes of my life.

-If she's playing with my hands, IT'S ON. All I do from there is "lean back" psychologically and act like she's my girlfriend. As long as I remain outcome independent, "be cool" and lead the interaction then sex is a foregone conclusion in my mind, so I have nothing to stress about.

-My "game" nowadays is geared heavily towards Kino and Body Language. My Attraction stuff is just me being my charming, witty Self (banter, roleplay, misinterpretation, just "being fun"). I don't "try". My Rapport is super-duper dry and "deep" enough to ground me as a real person; it's the most boring shit you'll ever hear.

-An important note: My kino often runs counter to what I say, in a way (that good 'ol "pull/push" element again). For example I might tell a girl we'd TOTALLY not get along, but give her a warm hug at the same time (push her away with words, pull her in with kino). Another example might be my dry-ass Rapport, which I couple with more sensual kino (logical info vs. emotional connection, in a way).

A girl can have a flag over her head saying, "Lets bone tonight," and I wouldn't know. I'm sometimes oblivious to it. My first SNL happened when the girl said, "I live down the street. Come over. We'll grab a drink." As obvious as it sounds to you, I didn't realize we were going to go at it until she said, "Lets go to bed and pulled me by the hand into her room."

Don't worry you're not alone in your obliviousness. There are times even now when I don't "get it" in the moment, but upon reflection I *TOTALLY* missed the "go" signal.

I think this is where learning more about inference and wordplay helps. I'd like to think I'm somewhat well-read and have a good grasp of dry wit, double entendres and the like. It translates well to understanding how girls try to communicate, because the real message lies below the surface of the words she presents, usually.

Is there any compliance type testing you do with her? (Like that random routine, "Let me see your hands. Palms down." You lift up with her and on the way down, if she follows your hands, she's compliant. If not, she isn't.)

Or is it more of subtly playing with her hands and having her play back while you are interacting?

I used to do contrived hand tests like high-fives and palm reading. They served their purpose back then but now when I look back they're a bit... awkward.

I just gently grab her hand while talking about whatever. This is usually a couple of minutes into the interaction and I have an inkling that she might be into me. It's quick and off to the side of our bodies. I just grab and see what she does. If she leaves her hand there for a bit I'll squeeze it lightly to see what she does. Whatever reaction I get I let go and either escalate the interaction or end it.

XXXXX and XXXXX have seen me do it in-field, it doesn't look like anything special but it's a treasure-trove of information for me.

I don't make a big deal about it because it isn't a big deal. It's just communication on a more primal level.

What kinds of roleplay do you run with her? Is it subtly sexual like, "I'm prince charming and you're the naughty little princess," or blatantly sexual like, "I am the dungeon master and you're my obedient dungeoness in training." (I just made those up)

To be honest I don't roleplay THAT much because I suck at it. :-\ However I make up for this deficiency with my uber-1337 banter steez. B-)

Sometimes the situations to roleplay will make themselves apparent and I'll run with it but I don't force it, personally.

Would you clarify what you mean by "Dry-ass Rapport" and "logical info vs. emotional connection?"

Dry-ass Rapport
Well, you know how EVERY major PUA out there says to NOT ask The Boring Questions (aka, "Where are you from", "What do you do", "What are your hobbies")? I fly in the face of convention and ask that shit in Rapport. It's "not supposed to work" but I make that shit work because my kino is the real conversation, anyways; my words just ground me as a real person instead of as a Player. That way when she talks to her girlfriends later she can say, "Oh, he's a good guy. He does XYZ in Los Angeles. He used to live in ABC. His parents are here, blah blah."

logical info vs. emotional connection
That ties into the above, and really is about the concept of Contrast. I forget who taught me this but being able to convey contrasting (not conflicting, subtle distinction) information simultaneously is good. I extend this idea into my communication of logical information (Who I am, what I do) with emotional connection (playing with her hands, sensual kino on her back, kissing, etc).

It's a deeper topic that wiser minds than I can explain in greater detail.

For the direct sexual style, is it still best to set the venue bounce as, "Come over to check out some pictures at my place," or if I say, "You're coming over tonight. Lets go," - is that as, or more, effective?

You mean directly from the club to your pad? That can work. Personally I like to take them to get some food first. It's good for a number of reasons, IMO:

-EAT FOOD (duh!)
-Venue change
-Safe environment for them that isn't "the club" to be social in
-Become integrated with her group ("We" went out for food after the club)
-Quieter, "normal" environment to get more Rapport and kinoescalation in (under the table stuff, so hot)
-In my mind it's more reasonable to bounce a girl from a restaurant. Why? I dunno.

Velvet Room

Time/Date
Saturday, 05/03/08, 10:30pm - 2:00am

Location
Velvet Room, K-Town

Logistics
Rolling with some new Korean friends

The shizzle that went bizzle
Asian girls, by and large, are socially inept. God bless 'em and all that, but man, I've had better connections with a wall than I've gotten with the girls tonight...

I was invited out by some new Korean friends I made to a booking club here in Koreatown called Velvet Room. Now, for those of you that aren't familiar with booking clubs, this is how they work:

In Korean culture it's more "proper" to be introduced by a stranger to someone else than to cold approach and booking clubs exemplify this to a horrific degree. The idea is that you rent a table or booth for the evening and your waiter can "book" girls to come to your table, drink your alcohol, eat your decorate fruit platter, and/or talk with you. Now, by "book" I mean forcibly drag girls that aren't necessarily willing to your table of dudes. The waiters earn tips for the girls that they book for you-- more traffic = more money for him/her.

TOTALLY not my style. :-\

Now this particular booking club was actually pretty fly-- the interior is large and it's FULL of tables and booths. There's a large dance floor in the middle, private rooms in the back, and a smoking patio on the side.

The environment is LOUD. Imagine the loudest club you've ever been to, then pump it up another 15% in decibel-levels. As you can imagine this makes any verbal game a near impossibility, never mind the potential language barriers.

The girls are HOT. I know many of you may think that Asian girls have no ass and no boobs, but one look at the talent here and it'd prove you wrong VERY quickly. All the girls are dressed to the 9's and tend to travel in packs for safety.

Now, in terms of my results, here's how it went down for me:

0 for 25 for the evening, with only ONE girl even potentially hooking (but it was at the end of the night and she was there with some dudes and her girl friends waiting for their cars).

Did I mention that Asian girls are socially inept? :-\

Direct Game didn't pan out for me because of the environment-- all the waiters manhandle the girls there, so things like opening with kino or going Direct are an uphill battle because the girls will just lump you into the "drunk asshole" category fairly quickly.

Situational stuff didn't pan out either-- even in the smoking patio where I could actually talk only two girls were receptive and those shut down with the quickness once their friends got involved. Every other set was cooooold. Frigid. Even when I came in friendly, I got shut down faster than a... a... I don't even have a word for it. Frustration City.

The only avenue that I think can bear any fruit in this environment--

Dance Floor Game.

The girls seemed more receptive on the dance floor when I went to shake my groove thing but I had to tend to my friends more often than not which dragged me off the floor. I'm willing to explore this angle more for this environment since all my other usual tactics bore no fruit.

If you want to meet Asian girls at night, I DO NOT recommend this type of venue. Everything is working against you. The only reason I'd go back is to explore Dance Floor Game and see what that bears.

What I did good
I walked out of dead/dying sets very quickly. When girls copped attitude I just shut down the interaction and went on to the next group. I stretched my dancing muscles a bit and learned a little more about just not giving a fuck on the dance floor.

I made some new connections with Korean guys that are familiar with K-Town. We'll see how those pan out.

What I could've done better
Danced more?

Extra comments
I gotta say I'm a little bit more disillusioned about Asian girls now after this night. A SHIT-TON of work for little return in this environment and just in general. I personally don't have the time nor inclination to work the social circle angle.

Time to start checking out more racially-diverse environments.

Openers and Closure

This day started pretty shitty.

I had to attend to work-related stuff pretty much from morning 'til early evening and it didn't put me in my Happy Place. After getting a massage (a legitimate one, you pervs) and relaxing in the apartment for a hot second I was idling at neutral, which was an improvement. ch0ng0 rolled through in the early evening and we went to grub at Hodori before starting out on the evening's adventures with the rest of the crew.

The original plan had us looking for some fun times in K-Town, but unfortunately those fun times come with a $$$ pricetag that none of us were willing to pay. As fate should have it the suggestion of J Lounge was agreeable to most everyone so that is where the Universe directed us.

After working some doorman magic (credit to D for the tips on how to get in without hassle) we slide in. Now it turns out this evening had a strong theme of openers and closure, which I'll explain thusly:

Openers
I'm not much of one for routine monkeying, but I do have some favorite lines that give me fodder to banter about. One of my favorite ones is pretty simple and works with savvy chicks:

ME: Hey, there you are! :-D

Ya, that's it. Impressive, I know. ;-)

The power lies in its simplicity and it opened one pair of girls like gangbusters. This pair of black girls that were staring at the huge TV projection on the wall of the building were fun, and I had ch0ng0 there to wing me.

I did my thing with the shorter of the two; there definitely was attraction on her part but I couldn't push things to a deeper level because she kept going on about her business (and the fact that I was a Web Dev and she needed one). Got the contact info, chatted a bit more, then bounced.

Closure
That girl from the prior post, M., showed up this particular evening as well with her roommate and other friends. She actually greeted me while I was standing at the bar waiting for drinks, but her hug was distant and polite. Hrrmm. Worthy of investigation, considering that she had been basically unresponsive to my texts earlier in the week.

Fast-forward the evening to later and I run into her group in the outdoor lounge area. Talk with her and come to find out she had just broken up with her BF this past week, which explained A LOT of the minor details I'd noticed in our prior encounter.

Fast-forward to the end of the evening. I run into her leaving J Lounge and ask her what she's up to this week, to which she says, "Right now is not a good time." Understandable, given the information I'd just gleaned, so I told her that once that drama stabilizes itself to call me, after which I bid her adieu. About all that can be done and still leave the window open for future encounters.

What you did well
My kinoescalation was on-point tonight.

My banter was en fuego.

I kept my cool with M., even in light of the breaking-up information. That's the only way to play that situation, even though it was difficult to remain outcome independent.

What you did wrong and could have done better
With the black chick I should've insta-dated sooner. There was a lull about 15 minutes into the conversation where I was trying to move her to a couch, but right as I was suggesting it her friend jumped in about having to get back to their friends.

Extra Comments
I thought this was classy of M.: While meeting her friends I finally got introduced to her roommate the weed-smoker. When her roommate asked if I was the same J____ that almost schtupt'd her last week M. said, "No that was a different J____".

A pleasant evening at J Lounge

After a full day of sorting receipts and old paperwork in my apartment I needed to get out and meet women. Sent out the bat-signal and linked up with D and his friends at J Lounge in Downtown LA.

This particular evening J Lounge was a touch on the lightly populated side but nothing I couldn't work with. The real challenge of the evening lay in the fact that it was 95% Asians in mostly large birthday groups, which means lots of light social hopping, mostly talking to the guys of the groups to see if something hooks.†

During the course of the evening in the outdoor patio I was using that OTHER universal opener, "Do you have a light?" If you're a smoker (which I am, from time to time) it'll work for you, especially if you don't really care who you get a light from. At one point I asked for a light from this girl that had been talking to D and his friends earlier in the evening and we hit it off conversationally. I wasn't "running game" or trying anything, really, I was just being my lovable, charming self. B-) Eventually her two friends drag her off inside J Lounge, so I wrote that one off as just a pleasant conversation.

Fast-forward 30 minutes: I was chatting up this Asian couple near one of the heat lamps when, out of the blue, the chick from the paragraph above comes up and tells the couple, "He's such a cool guy!" and gives me a hug.

Huh. Okay, I can run with this. :-) She was cute enough so I wanted to see where this led.

The girl (let's call her M.) is a bit quirky-- she's Korean but adopted by Caucasian parents, so the conversation was like talking with a nerdy white girl (which I can dig). She qualified herself A LOT, and I just kind of led the conversation and let her fill in the gaps, busted on her with banter from time to time and rewarded her with kino when appropriate. She eventually re-introduced me to her friends, who apparently were talking to this trio of Asian guys. I wasn't sure what the relationship was so I played it cool and social, but sticking next to M. to ramp kino and talk with her.

Eventually the trio of guys wants to buy the other two girls shots (which turns into buying all of us shots. Yay free alcohol!). I lead M. by the hand up the stairs to the main bar and start hand-testing while walking through the dark bar. She reciprocated (finger-play is soooo hot), so at that point (in my brain) I knew taking things to an intimate level was a foregone conclusion, I just needed to (A) play it cool, (B) kinoescalate and (C) don't fuck up.

We get our shots, we hit the dance floor. M. is grindin' on me, and life is good-- until one of the trio fucks up with one of the other girls and ruins the vibe. Now, this whole time I'm trying to find a way to bounce the girls with me and ditch the trio (I'm sure they're nice guys, but they were fvcking with my mojo). Eventually I get the other two girls to agree to go get some food in K-Town and we lose the guys (or so I thought).

M. and I get to a restaurant in K-Town and wait for her two friends to show up. They eventually get there, but somehow the trio followed us here which makes for an awkward dining experience. One guy is trying way too hard to game one of the girls, and it makes me sad for the guy, because the girl is blatantly not interested. We get our grub on while the farce of a conversation continues in front of us, with M. feeding me spoonfuls of food now and again.

M. gets a bit of a tummy-ache from eating too much and she wants to bounce. A bit of a wrinkle, but that's OK because I was trying to remain as outcome-independent as possible, mentally. We bid her friends and the trio adieu and I drive her back to her place. When we get there I make the excuse of needing to use her bathroom and she agrees to it.

I make my way into a darkened apartment and from an adjacent room I hear her roommate ask if she picked up some weed. I quietly make my way past her roommate's room and into M.'s room, take a leak, and come out to an already-changed-for-bed M. She says I gotta go, and I verbally agree, and make out with her anyways. :-D In between bouts of making out I just talk about random stuff and set up a time for tomorrow to link up. I push things pretty far physically but eventually get a genuine "Stop," and so I do. I quietly make my way to her front door, get a little more sugar for daddy and then I'm out like Shout™.

†If you don't have experience dealing with Asian social circles, let me tell you that you pretty much HAVE to work the guys of the group first and get them to integrate you into their social circle. It eats up a lot of time and you're going to talk to a LOT of people that you don't necessarily want to meet but 'dems the breaks if you want to get to the Asian girls in these scenarios.

There and balikbayan again

It's been ages since I've taken a proper vacation from work. In fact I don't recall ever taking a vacation of more than 3 days (aka "the long weekend") before college ended. That changed when I took a vacation with family to the Philippines recently for two weeks, partly to attend my cousin's wedding in Batangas, partly to lounge about doing nothing (or so I thought) in Cebu and Bohol. I learned a couple of things while I was out there, some of which I'll elucidate below.

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If you thought Asian girls in the 'States were shy, man, girls from the Philippines are even more shy. Shy and low self-esteem and surprised that a sexy Asian man (such as myself) would see anything in them worth getting to know. Now I'm not saying this to try and put them down or anything, God love 'em, but they make the whole "getting to know you" process a challenge, that's for certain. The whole time I was out there, every single girl I approached was shocked that I would want to talk to them. I remember one in particular verbalizing, "Why do you want to talk to me, I'm boring!" over and over again. It's kind of sad and yet also part of my challenge: I have to find that one special thing in her and show it the light of day and the brilliant light of my love *gag* ;-).

--oh yeah, Direct opening doesn't exist in the Philippines. No where. Even with the white folk vacationing there I'm 99% certain I'm the only guy in that whole frickin' nation with brass ones enough to approach a stranger and tell her she's cute and that I'd like to shag her rotten. I'd like to change that some day, but I digress...

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There are a lot of prostitutes in the Philippines, not all of which are necessarily of "legal" age. :-\ Despite all the advances in technology and economic growth the Philippines is still, by and large, a poor country (2nd world, or something close to it). Because of this and because of the large number of tourists that visit the beaches (on some of the islands) there's good money to be made in that profession.

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While I was there I spent most of my time with family or touring but in the precious moments when I could actually, you know, do what I wanted to (that's the point of a vacation, isn't it?) I was able to flirt with a couple of pinays. Here's the noteworthy ones:

1) While staying at a beach resort in Cebu I met this lil' cutey while she was sitting with her friends by the pool. It started with solid Eye Contact from a distance and a sly smile. From there it was all Presence and Eye Contact and some good kino. There was a language barrier (even though I understand Tagalog) so a lot of the interaction was broken Taglish, smiling and kino.

The main problem? Logistics, on both our parts. I was sharing a room with my family and she was there with a, ahem, "client". That didn't stop the fact that she was crazy attracted to me (I don't count specific IOIs any more, it's just a gut feeling based on her actions and I haven't been wrong yet). All we could do was flirt from afar and over text message. Ultimately the stars just didn't line up for us.

2) While killing some time at a mall in Cebu with my cousin and brother I saw this cute girl walk into the coffee shop we were in. After she bought her coffee and sat outside at a table I just said, "fvck it" and approached her Direct (yet friendly and relaxed). She was taken aback at first but started smiling and enjoying the interaction soon after.

This interaction was notable for me because I really pushed my kino with her, even kino'ing her legs and small of her back in broad daylight. When she'd call me on the kino I'd banter back with stuff like, "I'm not touching your back, you keep leaning into my hands! :-) If you keep that up I'm going to have to stop talking to you. ;-)" I would, of course, continue kinoescalating. :-)

If I had still been staying in Cebu that day I have no doubt I would've pulled her back to my hotel room. As it stands I was flying out that day with my family in an hour, so this one didn't go anywhere.

3) During my last couple of days in Manila I went with a couple of friends to a local strip club/karaoke bar. Now the way these strip club/k-bars work is, beyond the normal strip club below, there are karaoke rooms you can rent on the second floor. With these room rentals you have your choice of "female companion" taken from this large, aquarium-like viewing room (you need to see it to know what I mean, it's kind of funny).

The rude and the crude of it: you can spend time with the chick in the k-room and elect to pay an extra amount to rent a private room for an hour to schtup her. Most of my friends elected to do so. Why didn't I? Well, lemme tell ya...

The girl that I picked was... a challenge, to say the least. She looked young (well, all pinays look young) and she acted even younger. It wouldn't surprise me if she turned out to be around 16 years old, even though she said 18. She was very ticklish-- I mean, so ticklish that even placing my hand on her back made her laugh and pull away (she said that she was ticklish because she didn't know where my hands were). On top of all this was the language barrier.

So how did I handle it? Well I played it patiently and kept the energy light and fun-- there was a lot of word play (mostly through broken Taglish) and strong Eye Contact, and I eventually got her accustomed to my touch despite repeated push-off's. I took things to a sexual level by deliberately controlling her hands (with mine on top) and using them to touch herself. Eventually once everyone else left the room I took things all the way with her. She certainly wasn't ticklish by that point. ;-)

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All in all I really enjoyed my time in the Philippines. It was great to see my relatives and to flex my chick skills with the local talent. I may yet return one day, hopefully with more time to actually do what I want.

A New Year

Man, has it really been 3 months since I've posted to this blog? So much has happened in the interim that's noteworthy (well, at least to myself) I don't even know where to begin. I guess the best way to disseminate this information is too outline it and then go into the nit-grits in separate posts. :-)

• Went on vacation to the Philippines, had sexytimes
• Been going to the Barnes & Noble at The Grove regularly to read a book and flirt with girls
• Taught at another AoA weekend (sort of)

In terms of where my "game" is at, it's a LOT more natural than it was in months past. I owe a lot of it to hanging with my "natural" buddy, K., who I talk a LOT with about girls and "game" and all kinds of shizzle. It certainly gives me a good barometer to measure things against, plus he's just a cool motherfucker to hang with. To sum up where my "game" is:

• Less words in Attraction and Rapport
• More assertive kino right off the bat
• Tighter non-verbal communication (body language, eye contact, kino)
• Stronger "Frame" (if she's talking to me, she likes me, so it's "on" and I go for what I want)

As an aside to why I'm able to be more assertive and "bold":

If you've ever seen me or hung out with me you know that I tend to put off a "metrosexual" vibe. Part of this is being brought up in an Asian culture, part of it is being a Virgo (Virgos are a "mutable" sign, meaning they can play the Masculine or Feminine poles of a given relationship). Because I may not be percieved (outwardly) as overly-Masculine I can get away with some pretty crazy shit, kino-wise and verbally. I think this is also why Direct works so well for me-- there's a contrast of intense Masculine direction versus a more Feminine "vibe". Not saying I'm a girlie-man or anything, though, so fvck off. ;-)

In any case I'll be following up this post with more details of what's been my going-on lately in terms of chicks.

Happy New Year!

Halloween Hijinks

You know, I'm not normally one to play "dress up" on Halloween. The whole idea of the "holiday" has lost its novelty on me; if I want to go out and have fun I can do that in my normal civilian clothing, thank you very much. :-)

This past All Hallow's Eve I ended up chillin' with my brother and good friend K. at this new (yet old) spot called LIFE on Wilshire Blvd and Crescent Heights Blvd. I had heard about it through some email list I'm on (I forget which one. Thrillist? Yelp? One of those...) Now it just so happens that this particular evening LIFE was also hosting a social mixer with the organization lafun.org. Color me pleasantly suprised when I walk into LIFE and am greeted by several dozen scantily-costume-clad Asian women from the lafun.org list. :-) Now THAT'S how you start the evening off right!

I opened a couple of groups just warming up my social muscles and ended up talking with a girl at the bar, B., who was part of a larger group of Asian girls that weren't in-costume (for whatever reason). We vibe for a bit and I attempt to see if she'll comply with me by saying I'm going outside for a smoke. She agrees but for whatever reason she doesn't follow. I'm not about to hang around waiting for this chick so I bounce outside, greeting random people and groups along the way.

Later in the evening I end up reopening the group with my buddy K. winging me. That buys me some time to get some one-on-one time with B. For whatever reason she's super closed-off and shy, and she keeps insisting that she's boring. I tried giving her the benefit of the doubt but after a while I started believing her.

I decided to go and talk to the rest of her group after that; the whole group was composed of cute Asian girls so it's a win-win proposition for me. :-) I play around with one of the girls, V., basically amping Attraction, taking photos, kinoing the shit out of her. Good times.

I eventually switch gears to E. who was quiet most of the time our group was mingling with theirs. She was the token Korean of the group, I guess, and you know how I am with Korean girls... :-] I end up talking with her and dropping things into Rapport and developing a connection with her, which is always good times. It turns out I kind of dig this chick for more than her looks. Go figure, right? ;-) I set up tentative day2 plans with her (due to her schedule conflicting with mine; November's a zany time for me right now), did a little phone game with her on-the-spot to get the first phone call awkwardness out of the way, then kept talking to her and getting to know her.

So to recap: Went to LIFE; had a blast with my brother and good friend; and got a tentative day2 with a cute Korean chick. Muy bueno. :-)

HurryDate at Ritual

Since my schedule's been pretty tight at work I'd decided to explore other avenues of socializing. A friend had to told me about HurryDate and I decided to give it a whirl; I'd never done speed dating before and want to check it out. This particular event was being held at Ritual, where White Lotus used to be.

"But J," you may ask, "aren't you a PUA that can bed HB11's at the drop of a dime?" </sarcasm> I'll be the first to admit that recently the girls I've been interacting with in bars and lounges have been... less-than-ideal for a myriad number of reasons. Maybe it's the environment, maybe it's them, who knows. I thought this would be fun to try out and see how the quality of girls at an event like this is.

I'll say this much for the events I've gone to so far (tonight included): it's a crap shoot. Of the 20-some-odd girls that were there maybe 4 of them were attractive physically. I talked to all 4 of those chicks and there was just something... not there. I can't put my finger on it. It may be that the type of girls that speed date are either (A) too busy to socialize normally or (B) are peculiar in some other fashion that prevents them from being social on a regular basis. In any case the 4 cute chicks all had personality quirks that just didn't do it for me:

1. Reagan (yes like the ex-president): Just a weird personality. Very abrasive, negative, odd.
2. Abi (sp?): Hot Iranian chick. Libra. The sparks just weren't there.
3. Evelyn: Asian Dental Hygenist from Monrovia. Boring.
4. M____ (I forgot her name): too quiet, was like pulling teeth trying to get some Rapport with her. Arguably the hottest chick at the event. Tall, blonde, late 20's. Marketing consultant that lived in some city near the 5 and 170 freeway.

All in all I'm pleased with myself for trying this out and being social tonight to try and make up for the hot Korean that walked in and out of my life TWICE this afternoon. Confused I need to take this momentum and carry it into the weekend. Hopefully work won't sap my mojo.

An evening at S Bar and The Griffin

Logistics, logistics, logistics. Things like "getting IOIs" or "DHV'ing" or whatever bullshit are not my Sticking Point right now, everything keeps boiling down to the big "L" word. I'm very finely tuned into social interactions nowadays and I'm closer to running "Natural" game than I was 3 months ago. I have maybe 1 or 2 fun roleplaying openers that I keep in my back pocket but other than that I let my Body Language and Kino do the lion's share of the work for me. Now I just have to start finding girls that are local and down for some same-night sexytimes and I'll be golden.

Tonight was something of an interesting learning experience, albiet a touch frustrating. I'm trying to explore K-Town more (because of my irrational love of Korean women) and went to S Bar on Wilshire Blvd and New Hampshire Ave with my buddies Ulysses and S. If you've never been to this kind of bar before it's something akin to a hostess bar where the bartenders (who are all Asian women) pour your drinks, drink some of your alcohol, eat some of your food and generally entertain you. Tonight (Saturday) was actually kind of dead-- the only cute girls were behind the bar and that was a logistical challenge for me. I can't really kino across the bar easily so it makes getting the girls warmed up difficult. I need to find a spot at the bar where it opens up or something so I can stand next to them and get them hot and bothered to bounce later in the evening. I really dig a couple of the bartenders there and would ravish them in a New York Minute but I still haven't been able to crack the code yet, as it were. This'll be a pet project of mine for a while.

We eventually bounce from there to a new bar up in the Atwater Village area called The Griffin, which is something of a greaser rockabilly spot with a really chill vibe. We're chillin' in the smoking area and at one point I'm like, "Fuck this, I'm going to do the whole social butterfly thing" and bounce my way through the smoking area. Most of the sets end up dying for one reason or another until the very last set at the end of the evening (and at the end of the smoking patio, coincidentally).

I open the set with my tried-and-true, "Hey, do you have a light?" and I get the ball rolling. I eventually just start shooting the shit with all of them and try to get myself integrated with the group. Eventually 3 more of their friends show up, one of which is this STUNNING Vietnamese chick named V.T. Wow. We introduce ourselves to each other and I'm getting the vibe from her. I end up chatting up everyone else for a bit and eventually get drawn into a conversation with her sitting at the table.

From the moment we started talking I knew it was on. I was ramping the kino on her leg, under the table, while sitting in this dark spot of the bar. I was looking at her with strong Eye Contact ("Soul Gazing:" left eye to left eye) and going into some Medium Rapport stuff. I would've taken things further (feeling up her hands, her inner thigh, putting her hands in my lap, etc) but then I get cockblocked by her two friends that pull her into a conversation at the OTHER table. Blah. I go back to vibing with some of the guys at the table I was at for a bit.

Now at this point I have a decision to make: go for the day2 or the ONS. Given the logistics of her friends being there and whatnot I went for the day2. I stood up, went over to her table and chatted up her friend for a second before turning my attention to V.T. I straight up tell her, "Hey, I know you're with friends right now but I really would like to get to know you better since you seem like a cool chick. Let's get a coffee next week." From here logistics spanks me again:

-She lives in Huntington Beach, but is going to school at UC Santa Cruz (going back in 1 month)
-She has a live-in boyfriend
-She's working part-time at Fashion Island in Newport Beach (which is FAAAAAAAR from both my work and apartment)

I press for a meet-up (while kino'ing her back and arms away from prying eyes) and she seems to be giving it serious thought (eye-accessing cues down and to the left) but starts hemming and hawing about the points above. At that point it's do-or-die, since pressing for the ONS is more than a little difficult with all her friends there. I tell her this is her last chance since I was leaving (which is true), and she seems to consider it deeply one last time but ultimately backs out. Blah again. I say bye to everyone in the group and exit with grace.

3 feet from gold, man. 3 feet...

So, what did I learn tonight?

-Reinforced the fact that I'm a sexy bitch and chicks want to fuck me. w00t!
-Kinoescalate like there's no tomorrow but do it discreetly (i.e., under the table in a dark spot of the bar).
-"Soul Gazing" is the shit. I do this with everyone now but most especially with chicks. You can have the most DRY conversation in the world but you can basically eye-fuck each other in the middle of her friends. It's hot.
-Don't ignore her friends, integrate yourself with the group.

Ahh well, chalk this night up to experience.

Happy Birthday to me...

Today was the celebration of my birth upon this Earth and I'm dead-ass tired right now. I had spent this Labor Day weekend in the City of Sin: Lost Wages, NV. I went with 3 of the closest people I have in my life: my brother, my cousin, and my good friend K. My goals that weekend were simple: play craps, pick up girls (if the situation presented itself), shoot guns and (if the mood struck) see some titties.

I gotta say this weekend was a mixed bag.

The craps tables at Excalibur and Hard Rock took me for about $1,500 (I had some good runs as the shooter, I shoulda left when I was up) so that kind of messed with my head a bit. I earmarked $1,500 for this weekend so it's not like I wasn't mentally prepared for it, just the fact that I couldn't catch ANY breaks at the Hard Rock craps tables really set me back emotionally-- I didn't have the desire to flirt with girls after losing money the way I did.

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In terms of flirting with girls things just weren't hitting. Most of the girls were either with BFs, were boring, or were too "hot" for my emotional state at that moment. The girls that DID have potential I messed up by mistiming my approach. For example I was in Mist at Treasure Island, the freebie bar near the front entrance. It was more or less a cockfarm (blah), but there were several sets that could have gone better if I timed things differently:

1) Mixed set of guys and girls sort of dancing near the front. Asians. I got solid EC from one of the girls but hesitated too long to open them. I had to wait until the one I wanted sat down at her table alone and I went Direct. Slight language barrier and eventually her BF returned and basically shut me out. I greeted him in a friendly manner and exited with grace.

2) 2 girls walked into the bar, one Asian the other White. While they were at the bar waiting to get the attention of the bartender I opened them with the roleplay frame that I was part of their group and was running late. I had them laughing and engaged for the first minute, but I eventually lost them to the bartender. Had I waited for them to get their drinks things would probably have gone better.

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I've come to a couple of realizations from this weekend in terms of what I want out of this whole "meet girls" thing:

-Although I can function in a high-energy environment I much rather prefer quieter, "normal" locales to work my magic. For example I was leaving the Sherwood Forest Cafe in Excalibur when I saw this cute Asian chick eating by herself. I passed by her table, thought about it, then went back. I opened her sincerely but relaxed with, "Hey, you're really cute. I want to get to know you," and caught her off-guard a bit while she was eating her soup. It was cute. We vibed for a bit but she was there with her BF (who was playing poker at the time) so I took the convo as far as I could to practice my Rapport skills. After a few I left her to her meal and rejoined my buds.

-I can't force myself or put undue pressure on myself to open because that's when I fvck things up. When I'm relaxed and having fun with my friends and cute girls happen by things tend to fall into place. I already logged my training hours behind the wheel, I just have to let shit happen now.

-I don't really want a one-night stand. That may sound weird to some but in my heart of hearts those kinds of encounters don't really do it for me. I want a connection with the girl, that just makes the sexytimes all the more sweeter. That's not to say that I can't develop a deep connection with girls in one night, so I don't preclude the possibility of having an ONS, but most (if not all) of my night-time connections as of late have been shallow to medium Rapport, at best.

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On the upside I had TONS of fun hanging with my boys, shooting the shit, just being Men without apologies. Shooting guns at The Gun Store kicked ass, as usual. And to round things out we went to Sin (a strip club) and saw some titties, which is always good times (hey, I'm still a guy, y'know).

Where the fuck have I been?

It's been a while since I've posted here. Work's been kicking my ass the whole month of July and parts of August which has severely limited my daytime excursions. Obviously I'm not exactly the happiest camper right now, but I try to find time to socialize when I can, which has mostly been at night.

Most recently I've been hanging with a good friend of mine, Ulysses. He's a cool cat with a real rocker vibe to him. Mostly been rolling with him to Bar Lubitsch up on Santa Monica Blvd (near Fairfax) which is a cool lil' vodka bar. Depending on what night I've gone there's been a lot of entertainment industry people milling about, which includes the occasional actress. Not bad, although I hadn't been pushing myself lately. I'm mildly concerned about that, since I know I can do way better than I have been.

I taught at another of PU101's Art of Attraction workshops here in Los Angeles. The key difference? I got paid this time, sucka, g'yeah! Granted it's not a lot of money but it's something to make up for some of the lost sleep and lost weekend. Beyond that fact, though, is the teaching I got to do, which I really enjoy. I can't really accurately explain the satisfaction that I get from seeing my students succeed; I guess the closest analogy I can make is that it's similar to seeing your child grow up or something. It's a great feeling.

One of the side benefits of teaching is refinement of my own game and being able to tackle my Sticking Points. One of my major hurdles has been really owning my sexuality and feeling comfortable expressing it with women. While teaching in the field (which included taking students to places like Saddle Ranch and Beauty Bar) I was able to make significant progress with this SP: my kino flowed very smoothly and escalated a lot quicker. I was also able to observe Hristiyan (the Head Instructor for the weekend) who has a very sexually-charged style of kino. He was super-smooth, it was awesome watching him go to work.

And on a totally unrelated-to-anything note, I saw Kat Von D at Beauty Bar on Saturday night. She's taller than she looks on TV, but is just as cute in-person.

The Edison, this time with 20% more Asian!

Went to the Edison, met up with Ulysses, setarcos, 4fiVe6, JV and a bunch of Ulysses' friends. Fun, social night overall, but will post my musings on some of the interactions:

Got opened by a cute blonde chick in the smoking patio. She came up to me and asked if I was an actor (if you've seen me, I'm the FARTHEST THING from it). I said no, but thanked her for the compliment and got into a convo with her. This was basically the girl's way of picking up on me, which is cute; it's the equivalent of a girl complimenting your shoes or whatever, they want to get to know you but lack the PU skills to do it right. B-)

What's wrong with Asian girls? Seriously? EVERY SINGLE ONE I spoke with tonight had zero social acumen, even when I came in super-friendly. I'm getting more play from the white chicks and I don't even say much with them, I'm just being fun and flirty and things just fall into place. My buddy K. puts it succinctly, I think: "Asian girls act that way because they're not in touch with their pussies." Somehow that sentiment rings true to me. :-\

The Edison's got some cute hostesses. Rawr! It's always a good idea to get the names of the bouncers, doormen, hostesses and waitresses. People like it when you remember their names and address them by it with a warm handshake and solid EC. I actually keep a notepad with me and have the names of several key people that work at The Edison and every time I go there I make it a point to greet them and make some small talk. It goes a long way. :-)

Privilege

A buddy of mine recently starting doing promotions for Privilege on Wednesday nights, so he got me and some friends on the list. As it turns out both guys were indisposed for different reasons, but I didn't want to waste a guest list'ing so I decided to roll solo and see what happens.

Now my last attempt to roll solo was back in SF and it was... less than ideal results. It was important to me to see how well I'd do in this kind of situation again, only a year later.

The venue: Hrmmm, to be honest I can't say that I particularly like it. If you've never been to Privilege it's basically one giant dance floor with speakers at every turn (even in the connecting hallways). The smoking area is also the dance floor, so there's basically NO WHERE that's lower energy. Meh.

Although I've learned how to open in these kinds of environments I just... wasn't into it. I dunno, maybe I've already found my groove with lower-energy environments (i.e., The Edison, J Lounge, Bar Lubitsch) but I didn't really have it as a goal to get laid tonight (sounds weird, I know) nor open ten billion sets. I talked to whomever was around, I didn't run any real game, I was just social to be social.

I ended up hanging out most of the night with twin sisters who were promoters for Forbidden City/Dragonfly (may end up going, it's on Thursday and Sunday) at a table and just people-watched. We'll see how Forbidden City is on Sunday, that might be more my speed (Dancehall/Hip-Hop). As it stands I had a pleasant Wednesday evening making some conversation about nothing. Like an episode of Seinfeld except no Kramer.

Missed ONS(?) Numero Dos

Hindsight's a funny thing: the clarity it provides, the lessons learned, hopefully lessons that can be applied again in the near future. :-)

Was at The Edison this past Friday night with S. when I ran into my buddy Ulysses. Apparently he was there to hang out with two other guys I know (JV and E. who turned out to flake that evening), so we hung out together. The crowd was okay-- it was unofficial Asian Night again, which I both love and hate at the same time.

<rant>
What is it with groups of Asian girls? Honestly? It's like they've NEVER been social or flirted in public their ENTIRE LIVES, but most especially when they're cloistered together. Pretty much EVERY GROUP of Asian girls I've talked to since getting into the social scene has been shut-off to my approaches (which vary from blatantly social to blatantly sexual) and I can't get ANY of them to crack.

It's frustrating and I wonder why I even bother trying to talk to them when they're a group. I've had pretty good results when I can isolate one of them but that's rare; I've pretty much gotta catch them when they're either going to/from the bar or the bathroom, and I've gotta cut to the chase with a Direct opener and just move as quickly into Deep Rapport and a day2 set up as time and the environment permits.
</rant>

Fast-forward to the end of the evening. I had ended up opening this 2-set of cougars that were chilling out in the smoking lounge about some bullshit that I don't even remember (I think I commented on them singing), and I was telling the cute one that I was leaving. At this point it got kind of confusing: the dancers were on-stage below, and she was commenting about them and at the same time talking about closing out her bar tab, and when I went down to follow her she got lost in the crowd. At the same time S. had left early (for WHATEVER reason) and was texting me to hurry up and join him for some tacos, so I had to make an executive decision: bro vs. cougar?

Hindsight tells me that I should've rain-checked S. on the tacos and waited for the cougar to come back to see if I could get a different kind of taco that evening. As it turns out the confusion made me decide to say "F- it" and go for the carne asada-filled variety rather than the pink. *sigh*

Lesson learned.

Night Game - is it even worth it any more?

You know, it's funny how life can be thought of as a series of phases, steps or even milestones. I remember when I first started going out actively about 2 years ago how exciting and fresh things were. There was still an element of the unknown back then when it came to talking to groups of people, especially ones that had cute chicks in them. Shit was novel, to a degree.

Nowadays, I don't know. I still make myself go out and be social on Friday and Saturday nights but its more of a maintenance thing than anything. I try to push my comfort limits with every set but I have enough experience under my belt now to know which sets are going to go well and which ones are going to die a horrible death within the first couple of moments. My social awareness is pretty sharp nowadays and it's making me very selective about who I talk with, which is good and bad at the same time.

This doesn't mean I don't stick it out with the sets that I have a feeling aren't going anywhere-- it's still good experience to see how long you can hold the attention of everyone in a group, but even I have my conversational limits.

In any case, I guess the point of my rambling is this: my ROI during night game is pretty crappy. For a multitude of reasons (geography, group dynamic, even them being just plain ol' BORING) the sets rarely progress beyond wide Rapport and it's irking me. I have better success rates in the daytime and it makes me wonder sometimes why I even bother dressing up to head out if people are going to be anti-social (or worse, POLITE) with me when I go up to them to talk. I suppose there's merit to Night Game-- quantity of sets, refine kino and body language. But the cons are seem to be outweighing the pros more and more.

Maybe it's just tonight and my spotty results. I dunno. Maybe people generally suck and can't escape their cliquish behaviour. Maybe I need to fine-tune some aspects of my game. Maybe I'm outgrowing the need to go out at night and entering a new phase of life.

Maybe I just need to go to bed. Tomorrow's a new day...

The importance of good wingmanship

I went with my brother and a buddy of mine to The Edison this past Saturday night. Apparently Saturday is an unofficial Asian night which is TOTALLY fine by me. ^_^ We got there at 9:00pm and chilled until around 10:00pm when things started to fill up.

In any case, on to the point of this lil' post-- having a capable wingman is CRUCIAL to managing a large group of people. A good one will make your job effortless; a bad one will sabotage things for you before you've even really started.

Case in point: my buddy L. was winging for me on all the sets I was approaching but he wasn't trained in the ways of the Force (so to speak) so he was basically making my job 10x's harder. Most of the sets of the evening went like this:

1. I open the set.
2. Not even 10 seconds in he shows up and just orbits behind my back. Aaaarrgghhh, don't do that man, it's creepy to the girls! T_T;;
3. I introduce him to the group way too early, and he jumps on just one chick and engages just her, leaving me to manage the rest of the group.
4. The vibe in the set dies soon after.

Times like this make me want to go to clubs solo. :-\ I love the guy, honestly I do, but he unintentionally was salting my game! My options are pretty clear, here:

A. Run game solo (not as fun)
B. Train L. how to be a proper wingman
C. Find another wingman that's already well-versed in the ways of Wingmanship.

If anyone else is reading this, here's the basic Rules:

• He who opens the group runs the group. Defer power to Him.
• Your Wing is More Important, More Interesting, and Cooler than ANYONE ELSE in that venue. Act accordingly.
• When you enter the group, address your Wing and let him introduce you to the group. After that, ACT NORMAL. Assume Rapport/Comfort with the group.
• Your primary duty is to help your Wing get laid. This means you're there to occupy the group while your Wing gets one-on-one time with his intended Girl.
• If your Wing says it's time to bounce, then it's time to bounce.

AoA:LA and AoR:LA, Part Deux

It seems PU101's schedule of classes is increasing in frequency. It's kind of good and kind of bad at the same time-- I like helping out (and rising through the ranks) but man it's SUCH a drain on my resources. My weekend gets shot and my energy reserves are tapped by Monday.

There are positives to the whole thing, though. Instructing students makes me step up my game at a rapid pace because I have to show and prove at the drop of a hat. I also get to pick the brains of other instructors and share and gather knowledge in a concentrated form. Ohh, and there's that whole "make cute girls smile" thing, I guess that's kinda fun. ;-)

Some sets of note for posterity's sake:

(1) AoR Saturday night. Hung out with the PU101 interns at Saddle Ranch for an hour or so (I was DEAD tired and just wanted to chill and have a beer). While flirting with the waitresses in the outdoor seating area of Saddle Ranch, Gamer* and I both notice this table with one cute blonde surrounded by 3 guys. None of the guys looked like her boyfriend just from observing how they sat and interacted. A couple of times the blonde looked at Gamer and/or myself-- like strong, solid eye contact.

After a couple more rounds of flirting with the waitresses I excused myself from our group and approached their table. I got the attention of the guys and gal at the table, and:

ME: Excuse me, guys. Do you mind if I talk to your friend for a second?
ORBITING GUY FRIEND: Which one?
ME: Her. <Turn to the chick, who is seated close to where I'm standing now> I was sitting over there with my friends and I noticed you, and you're really cute. I had to come meet you.
HER: ^_^ I'm Rebecca!

I introduce myself to her and to her friends (don't be rude, now) and ask how they know each other. She says that they're all old classmates. Architects, it turns out. Cool.

I lean up against the railing and vibe with her for a little bit. At one point She asks what I do, so I take that opportunity to drop things into medium Rapport. I share one of my Identity stories, talking about how I enjoy being a catalyst in peoples' lives. Things were starting to go somewhere, conversation-wise...

...until the orbiter interrupts our conversation by asking Rebecca about her plans for this coming weekend. My Rapport doesn't trump his Rapport in this instance (remember: classmates), so I lose her attention. It didn't feel right to re-engage her with some Attraction material so I let it go and just vibe with the other two guys for a couple minutes until I decide to leave. I tell them all that it was a pleasure meeting them and exit gracefully.
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(2) AoR Sunday afternoon, Melrose Ave. Was instructing one of the students, J. and one of the interns, B. No particular sets hooked for me, but I did get a LOT of practice opening Mother/Daughter and Father/Daughter sets. It helped me calibrate that timing and how to address both people with the proper energy and respect towards the parents.

There was one missed opportunity that I regret not taking action on-- there was a stacked blonde chick on the other side of the street walking by and I couldn't get a good look at her face, so I hesitated running across the street (that is, across Melrose Ave, not a side street) to open her Direct. Lesson learned: take action anyways. If it turns out she's not what I'm looking for I can always just keep walking past her.

I had one fantastic blow-out in a jewelry store. I approached some Lebanese-looking girl from the side with the start of my 1-2-3:

ME: Excuse me, do you know if there's a Bank of America around he--
HER: No. <Turns away>
ME: ...
ME: <Walk away and engage the Korean chick behind the counter>

It didn't phase me at all, I just thought it was REALLY funny. It's that girl's loss, ultimately, we could've had a fun interaction.
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*Handles used to protect the identities of the innocent (and not so innocent, as the case may be. ^_^;; ).

An Evening at Villa Sorriso (Pasadena, CA)

Today I had previous engagements so I had to skip out on instructing at AoA for this evening (although I'll be back tomorrow). In the morning I participated in a graphic design portfolio review down at Cal State Long Beach and by the time I was done I was nearly asleep. I made the long drive back up the 110 to LA (half-asleep, not a good idea) and hit the sack for an hour to recharge.

Drove up to Pasadena for a buddy's birthday dinner shindig at Villa Sorriso, an upscale dining experience at the west end of Old Town Pasadena. Good food, good company, good times.

The restaurant converts to a dance spot later in the evening, so we hung out there until the party started going into full swing. My buddy's drunk but taken care of so I go and work the crowd. I'm in socializing mode and I'm using no canned routines or anything-- just walking around and talking to people like the sexXxy beast I am. :-)

One interaction went pretty well and I learned a lot about kino calibration and just exuding sexuality. She was standing at the front in the smoking area with two of her friends and I was finishing up a cigarette and convo with some guys I was engaging. She kept looking in my direction, although I didn't know if she was looking at me or the guys behind me, but it didn't matter. I went up to her, told her she's cute in a playful but confident way, aaaand we're off to the races. She's a voluptuous lil' Latina, and she's cute enough that I want to talk to her. We talk for a few, get the hand test in (passed) and engage her friends for a few minutes until they decide to hit up the bar. I'm whatever about it and say I'll catch them later.

Fast forward 20 minutes I run into them again outside while they're having drinks. I bust on them by playfully accusing them of stalking me, which gets them laughing. My girl suggests we go dance and I happily oblige. I lead her to the dance floor by her hand and hand test again (passed again) and we start grindin' on the dance floor. She's into it and rubs up on my goods for the bulk of our dancing and I let my hands wander around her butt. She keeps pushing them away but I pay it no mind, it's not a big deal to me. We leave the dance floor after a couple of minutes because the DJ sucks and keeps changing the style of music, and I tease her about charging her $20 for the dance. Rejoin her friends where they head to the bar (again), I let them go and head in the other direction.

Fast forward 20 minutes (again), I'm on the phone with a good buddy of mine just shooting the shit and in my peripheral I see my lil' Latina sitting in the corner getting hit on by some douche. I'm debating whether to go rescue her or not, but I'm still on the phone with my buddy so I decide not to. Besides the fact that I really wasn't THAT into her (although I'm fairly certain she'd be down for a ONS) I didn't want to hang up on my buddy.

Some of you might be saying "WTF? Go get the chick and fuck her!". A part of me would agree, but another part doesn't really WANT sex for the sake of it especially with a chick that I only *sort of* think is attractive. I took the lesson instead, which I'll be able to apply to chicks that I *REALLY* dig (read: Korean chicks with limited english abilities).

So, what have we learned tonight, kids?
-I'm one sexXxy beast, grrrr baby, yeah!
-I'm more or less non-reliant on routines now and just state the obvious and let my body language do the rest of the work
-I DEFINITELY need to work on my dance floor game. It was serviceable with this chick but I do think there's more for me to learn there
-I should've kinoescalated to the point that she vocalizes wanting to bounce if only for the experience
-Being outcome independent is a great feeling. :-)

FR: The Edison

Quickly--

Went to a new bar in Downtown LA called The Edison (bar in converted turn-of-the-century power plant). Dope venue, no cover, TONS of cute chicks. This is my new Friday night spot, methinks. :-)

Only one noteworthy set:

Opened a 2f-set near stage. Engaged them with nothing flashy in terms of Attract (the venue didn't feel all that ADD, despite the music, so I didn't feel like I had to dig deep into the bag of tricks). Buddy came to wing me, so I talked with the cute 31 y/o Pinay of the set.

What was interesting was that she is very much a Type "A" personality-- very talkative, VERY kinesthetic (probably a Scorpio or a Pisces), very engaging. This threw my game a lil' since I was used to girls that I had to pry info out of, so I brought things down to Rapport energy levels and let her do most of the talking.

Long story short-- got a #close (I know, I know...), played with her for a little bit on the phone, then bid her and her group adieu. This morning sent her a playful text to see if I'd made a good enough impression to get her to text back and get the ball rolling.

Hey, how's my globetrotting gymnast doing today? :-) -JS

(She's well-travelled and a former gymnast, hence the above references)

Didn't get an immediate response so I was like, "Whatever", and went about my day.

Around 11:00pm she texted me back, so there might be something there to pursue. Ohh, I forgot to mention that she's engaged. Not that I'm letting that stop me, that just means I have to be more discreet about stuff. :-)