Day2 with a blast from the past

Just finished a day2 with an old crush from college. She had found me on Friendster after 5 years of nada so I set up the day2 for tonight (after some quick catch-up-on-old-times and light banter on the phone). All in all it was about 2.5 hours (which is longer than I'd like) but we were having a good time.

Points of interest:
-Korean chick (mmmmm, yummy) AND she speaks fluent English (SCORE!)
-Multiple venue changes (Apartment -> Starbucks -> Roof of apartment -> Apartment) with ramping kino at each stop
-Got to tell one Deep Rapport story (which revolved around my self-improvement in a specifically vague way)
-She was actually pretty compliant the whole way, I just needed the balls to grab her and lead her around physically (which I did eventually)
-Got a k-close and set up day3 for next week

All in all a pleasant evening. B-)

Sticking Points:
-Ramp kino EVEN FASTER. In retrospect I probably could've made out with her on the roof or in the apartment but I didn't man up soon enough
-Once I have isolation, just go for it, straight up. Worst that'll happen is she'll say No (or "No"-meaning-not-yet)

Refining my Day2 steez, part II: Electric Vindaloo

So I had another day2 tonight that went a LOT better than last night's. I think it's due to the fact that she's a much more compatible personality type to mine's (she's a Capricorn, I'm a Virgo, if you care). In any case, here's the breakdown:

After receiving my new couch in my pad (which is pimp, by the way, got it from www.viesso.com) she arrived. I had her park in my garage (which is an arrangement I had with my brother/roommate) and took her upstairs because I had to "finish some email stuff". She's just as cute as I remember her, so I'm diggin' it. She gave me a hug when she arrived which was the basic ass-out hug you give to sort-of friends and relatives you don't really care for. Gave her the grand tour of the apartment (which is still being put together, hence the moniker The Death Star), which ended with my bedroom. After a couple of minutes we head out to the Starbucks.

On the walk down she's very talkative, which makes my job TONS easier. I still lead the conversation, and lead her into vulnerability by sharing stories about my life. I don't run any Rapport routines, I just keep sharing and leading and kino'ing the sh!t out of her.

We get to the Starbucks and post up outside for more than an hour (possible tactical mistake, since I told her from the get-go that I only had an hour in my schedule). She sits first, which allows me to maneuver my chair to a side-by-side position, and we vibe. She is, by far, the coolest, most put-together chick I've ever met. She's about the same age as me (29) and she's got a plan and a dream for her life, which turn me the fvck on. At one point I straight-up SOI her: "I like you. You're really cool and you've got a dream and goals. I dig that."

As it stands she's very business-goal oriented and has to help take care of her mother at home, so I have to keep those things in mind for future interactions (read: RAPID kinoescalation on day3 because of time constraints). On the walk back I get a little hand-holding but not much more. High five test was a little flat, as well, but the vibe was there so I'm going to give this another go-round to see if she's just a little shy on the first date. Now I just have to get things more private and kinoescalate like there's no tomorrow.

Refining my Day2 steez

So I had a day2 tonight with a co-worker (Yes, I know the whole "Don't shit where you eat", but still...). In short: no sexual spark was there, but I still got good experience from it. Random thoughts posted for posterity:

-Doing the whole "show her the bedroom but leave soon after" thing worked OK this time.

-I set up the seating in Starbucks to be side-by-side, but she changed it to face-to-face. Tried to mitigate it by angling my seat off to the side and eventually getting her to pull up closer, at least. Still, not ideal.

-Conversation turned to sex about halfway in (30 min), which was cool to be frank with a chick about her sexual history. I'll have to refine this a bit, I think, to where I lead into this with a story or two to make it more comfortable.

-Misstep when she asked if I was seeing anyone. My answer was something like, "Well, now that would be telling.", after which I tried to backtrack to, "No, I don't have a girlfriend right now". Mental note: prepare an answer for this question that's specifically vague. I'm open to suggestions.

-Kinoescalation on the walk to/from was difficult for some reason. Weather was cold so she was cross-armed the whole time which made it hard to read if she was comfortable with the kino or not. We bumped our bodies into each other a lot, but still hard to read.

-I left my garage door opener in my apartment, so I had her come up again so I could get it. The kino wasn't there and I couldn't hand-check her the whole night so I wasn't sure where I was in that regard.

-Asked for a hug, got the limp side-hug, busted on her and made her give me a full body hug. The spark just wasn't there, not even in me. Hrrmm, oh well. :-\

I have another day2 tomorrow with a chick I met in Matrixfillmore in SF (she lives sort of close-by in Alhambra), so basically second verse same as the first. Hopefully the kino will flow better with this one, but we'll see if I still have that gut-level attraction for her.