The Edison, this time with 20% more Asian!

Went to the Edison, met up with Ulysses, setarcos, 4fiVe6, JV and a bunch of Ulysses' friends. Fun, social night overall, but will post my musings on some of the interactions:

Got opened by a cute blonde chick in the smoking patio. She came up to me and asked if I was an actor (if you've seen me, I'm the FARTHEST THING from it). I said no, but thanked her for the compliment and got into a convo with her. This was basically the girl's way of picking up on me, which is cute; it's the equivalent of a girl complimenting your shoes or whatever, they want to get to know you but lack the PU skills to do it right. B-)

What's wrong with Asian girls? Seriously? EVERY SINGLE ONE I spoke with tonight had zero social acumen, even when I came in super-friendly. I'm getting more play from the white chicks and I don't even say much with them, I'm just being fun and flirty and things just fall into place. My buddy K. puts it succinctly, I think: "Asian girls act that way because they're not in touch with their pussies." Somehow that sentiment rings true to me. :-\

The Edison's got some cute hostesses. Rawr! It's always a good idea to get the names of the bouncers, doormen, hostesses and waitresses. People like it when you remember their names and address them by it with a warm handshake and solid EC. I actually keep a notepad with me and have the names of several key people that work at The Edison and every time I go there I make it a point to greet them and make some small talk. It goes a long way. :-)

3rd Street Promenade again, this time a lil' better

You know, it's funny, you can miss the mark 99 times in a row but hitting it on the 100th try kind of makes the first 99 not mean so much. It's the one that hits that makes it all worthwhile.

I was doing my usual thing, eating lunch, flirting with random girls. I'm finding that opening in loud environments such as inside La Salsa isn't netting me any positive results. Went Direct on two different girls (one at Coffee Bean, one in La Salsa) and got the "I have a BF" line. It didn't really phase me much, but it can be disheartening all the same.

What makes the day worth it, though, is my "100th" which is this cute Japanese girl that was sitting inside the Starbucks connected to the Barnes & Noble. She was sitting at the window ledge that faces Wilshire Blvd. I saw her when I was passing by outside and I actually walked for a block before deciding to turn around and talk to her. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Went into Starbucks and went Direct with a relaxed vibe. Talked with her for a bit, got her to agree to a future day2 (scheduling an exact date was hard because she was studying for summer school finals and was flying back to Japan on the 30th of July), got the number and talked for a few more minutes. We'll see whether this pans out or not since time is working against me. I'm going to have to rely on some cute text messages to keep me in her memory. Still this counts as a "win" in my book. Go me!

Privilege

A buddy of mine recently starting doing promotions for Privilege on Wednesday nights, so he got me and some friends on the list. As it turns out both guys were indisposed for different reasons, but I didn't want to waste a guest list'ing so I decided to roll solo and see what happens.

Now my last attempt to roll solo was back in SF and it was... less than ideal results. It was important to me to see how well I'd do in this kind of situation again, only a year later.

The venue: Hrmmm, to be honest I can't say that I particularly like it. If you've never been to Privilege it's basically one giant dance floor with speakers at every turn (even in the connecting hallways). The smoking area is also the dance floor, so there's basically NO WHERE that's lower energy. Meh.

Although I've learned how to open in these kinds of environments I just... wasn't into it. I dunno, maybe I've already found my groove with lower-energy environments (i.e., The Edison, J Lounge, Bar Lubitsch) but I didn't really have it as a goal to get laid tonight (sounds weird, I know) nor open ten billion sets. I talked to whomever was around, I didn't run any real game, I was just social to be social.

I ended up hanging out most of the night with twin sisters who were promoters for Forbidden City/Dragonfly (may end up going, it's on Thursday and Sunday) at a table and just people-watched. We'll see how Forbidden City is on Sunday, that might be more my speed (Dancehall/Hip-Hop). As it stands I had a pleasant Wednesday evening making some conversation about nothing. Like an episode of Seinfeld except no Kramer.

My mojo's off today

You know those days when you feel like you never should've gone out in the first place? This was one of those days for me. :-\

Took a brisk walk to 3rd Street Promenade. On the way there I let two hot women pass me by (one Asian, one White). I stopped in my tracks for both and thought about it too long. :-( Bad John! Just act! *sigh*

After getting a tasty, tasty burger from Fatburger I wandered about the Promenade. While in Borders I notice this okay-looking white chick browsing books. I think to myself, "Ya, why not?". I open her Direct but I get a bad reaction; might be something's off about my energy or body language. I can't really tell in the moment. Oh well, chalked it up to experience and went back to browsing.

On the walk back I see this okay-looking blonde chick waiting at a bus stop. Again, open Direct, again get a less-than-favorable response. She actually said, "Yeah, I get that a lot" to my "You're cute"! That's a first for me (high-five? I guess) and I try to banter it off but it's a lost cause, I can feel it. I wish her a good day and go on my way.

I'm thinking either my energy's not right this morning or my intention isn't there; that is, I find these girls only somewhat attractive, so maybe that's influencing my Direct openers? Something to mull over.

I need to talk to a couple more later tonight after work, can't end the day on a weird down-note. :-\

Another long weekend teaching AoA

Man these kinds of weekends never get any easier. :-\ Chalk up one more successful weekend teaching PU101's Art of Attraction Workshop and adding 6 more confident, sexy men to the general human populace. All 6 of them did awesome and I'm proud of how far they've come.

I'm moving up the ranks in the teaching hierarchy. This past weekend I was a Lead-Instructor-In-Training and all indications from the Head Instructor (Robbie) and the other Lead Instructor (Eric) point towards a paid Lead Instructor position sooner rather than later. At this point it's up to Sean M. to give me the green light so I can start earning some side money.

There's an AoA workshop in Toronto, Canada in two weeks that I've petitioned to be a paid Lead Instructor for, so we'll see what happens. For now I'm trying to rest, recharge and do my laundry. Hopefully I'll get a proper lunch break tomorrow so I can get my flirt on at the 3rd Street Promenade. :-)

An Afternoon Stroll

Went for a quick walk down to 3rd St Promenade with a co-worker of mine so he could pick up some goodies from the Apple Store. On the walk down I see this STUNNING Asian chick walking in the opposite direction. I've gotta meet this chick for sure.

I wait about 10 seconds, tell my buddy to excuse me for a second, and I jog after her. I get within about 10 feet of her, slow down to a brisk walk, get in her peripheral vision and open her Direct.

We exchange pleasantries and go into Rapport. The issue I'm running into: I can't get her body to commit to the interaction. That is, her feet are still pointed in the direction she's travelling, and no matter how much I try to walk past her point of rotation she keeps just rotating her hips and neck towards me! It's kind of funny in a way and in hindsight I should've called it out to see if she'd turn to face me (away from where she was going), but that basically made the interaction very short. Couldn't really dig past Wide Rapport topics, and she eventually thanked me and went on her way.

LESSONS:
-Move your feet towards what you Want. More times than not wherever you were going originally can wait. Unless you're bleeding to death, then by all means stick to Plan A. ;-)
-GET HER TO COMMIT HER FEET TO THE INTERACTION. Do this by guiding them with your hands lightly and moving your body away from their original direction of travel. With this chick I couldn't get the initial kino in before the handshake, so it made steering her a touch difficult. Note to self...
-Don't let something like walking with co-workers stop you. Just excuse yourself really quick and do your thing. They'll understand, especially if you prep them beforehand ("If you see me take off after some random girl, don't mind me.")

A movie moment (but not The Movie Moment)

Was at a local movie theatre catching a screening of Paprika (which was awesome, by the way) when I saw this lone Asian girl sitting in the theatre. Hrrmmm.

Went out to use the bathroom and on my way back in I approached her. I strolled up near her and squatted down to talk with her. Nothing special in terms of opening her, just the usual "You're cute". Talked for a minute and switched from squatting to sitting near her (with one seat between us for comfort's sake).

She's Japanese and an import so I had to simplify my word choice when talking with her. I had to lead the conversation about 90/10 for a good 5 minutes, but eventually she started asking questions back which is a good thing.

Things were going well right until the movie started playing. I didn't have enough Rapport/Comfort with her so I couldn't get a proper close of any kind. :-\ Kind of bummed about that, but them's the breaks I guess.

Missed ONS(?) Numero Dos

Hindsight's a funny thing: the clarity it provides, the lessons learned, hopefully lessons that can be applied again in the near future. :-)

Was at The Edison this past Friday night with S. when I ran into my buddy Ulysses. Apparently he was there to hang out with two other guys I know (JV and E. who turned out to flake that evening), so we hung out together. The crowd was okay-- it was unofficial Asian Night again, which I both love and hate at the same time.

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What is it with groups of Asian girls? Honestly? It's like they've NEVER been social or flirted in public their ENTIRE LIVES, but most especially when they're cloistered together. Pretty much EVERY GROUP of Asian girls I've talked to since getting into the social scene has been shut-off to my approaches (which vary from blatantly social to blatantly sexual) and I can't get ANY of them to crack.

It's frustrating and I wonder why I even bother trying to talk to them when they're a group. I've had pretty good results when I can isolate one of them but that's rare; I've pretty much gotta catch them when they're either going to/from the bar or the bathroom, and I've gotta cut to the chase with a Direct opener and just move as quickly into Deep Rapport and a day2 set up as time and the environment permits.
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Fast-forward to the end of the evening. I had ended up opening this 2-set of cougars that were chilling out in the smoking lounge about some bullshit that I don't even remember (I think I commented on them singing), and I was telling the cute one that I was leaving. At this point it got kind of confusing: the dancers were on-stage below, and she was commenting about them and at the same time talking about closing out her bar tab, and when I went down to follow her she got lost in the crowd. At the same time S. had left early (for WHATEVER reason) and was texting me to hurry up and join him for some tacos, so I had to make an executive decision: bro vs. cougar?

Hindsight tells me that I should've rain-checked S. on the tacos and waited for the cougar to come back to see if I could get a different kind of taco that evening. As it turns out the confusion made me decide to say "F- it" and go for the carne asada-filled variety rather than the pink. *sigh*

Lesson learned.