Was at The Edison this past Friday night with S. when I ran into my buddy Ulysses. Apparently he was there to hang out with two other guys I know (JV and E. who turned out to flake that evening), so we hung out together. The crowd was okay-- it was unofficial Asian Night again, which I both love and hate at the same time.<rant>
What is it with groups of Asian girls? Honestly? It's like they've NEVER been social or flirted in public their ENTIRE LIVES, but most especially when they're cloistered together. Pretty much EVERY GROUP of Asian girls I've talked to since getting into the social scene has been shut-off to my approaches (which vary from blatantly social to blatantly sexual) and I can't get ANY of them to crack.
It's frustrating and I wonder why I even bother trying to talk to them when they're a group. I've had pretty good results when I can isolate one of them but that's rare; I've pretty much gotta catch them when they're either going to/from the bar or the bathroom, and I've gotta cut to the chase with a Direct opener and just move as quickly into Deep Rapport and a day2 set up as time and the environment permits.
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Fast-forward to the end of the evening. I had ended up opening this 2-set of cougars that were chilling out in the smoking lounge about some bullshit that I don't even remember (I think I commented on them singing), and I was telling the cute one that I was leaving. At this point it got kind of confusing: the dancers were on-stage below, and she was commenting about them and at the same time talking about closing out her bar tab, and when I went down to follow her she got lost in the crowd. At the same time S. had left early (for WHATEVER reason) and was texting me to hurry up and join him for some tacos, so I had to make an executive decision: bro vs. cougar?
Hindsight tells me that I should've rain-checked S. on the tacos and waited for the cougar to come back to see if I could get a different kind of taco that evening. As it turns out the confusion made me decide to say "F- it" and go for the carne asada-filled variety rather than the pink. *sigh*
Lesson learned.
2 comments:
Dammit, blogspot is all in japanese and shit :) Meant to post more that just hey ;)
In my travels I've noticed some pretty big differences between asian ethnic groups, maybe it will help ya.
1. Korean Girls. These are the most conservative by far. I made out with a Korean girl a week ago in a club, AFTER her brother went and gave her "permission". I'm serious. They probabley don't know how to flirt unless they have been sufficently westernized.
2. Chinese Girls. Less conservative than koreans, a little easier. In the US if they don not speak english well, then chances are that they are from a super rich family in China, and conservative. Chinese personal space is much smaller, but touching isnt something that's done, so you end in a weird situation, where you can stand much closer, but not touch :P. They also generally dont know how to flirt.
3. Japanese girls. More liberal than white girls, but act twice as modest. They also have extremely polished social skills. Masters of extremely subtle flirting(glances, body language, bambi eyes). Being rejected by a japanese girl is weird. You'll get something like "I'm sorry, I think I am bothering you too much, I must go now".
Brian,
"They probabley don't know how to flirt unless they have been sufficently westernized."
This is an ignorant, way off the mark comment. You give too much credit to girls getting Westernized and such.
I don't want to make any generalizations, but let's just say of all the Asian girls I've ever picked up - Korean girls are by far THE MOST charming & flirtatious. If they go to the U.S. and get too white and westernized, I personally think they become less feminine and less attractive
Brian, you clearly haven't met enough Korean girls.
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