Soul Gazing in the Rite Aid

Eye Contact. It's one of those things where, if you know what the fuck you're doing, it trumps pretty much anything you can use to communicate with a girl. Girls love a man that can give strong eye contact (no, not crazy stalker eyes, I mean the kind of gaze that looks right into her soul), and not enough men out there can look even other men right in the eye let alone a cute girl.

I was running into the local Rite Aid last night, looking to pick up a pack of smokes (PUBLIC SERVICE MESSAGE: Don't smoke, it's bad for you.) when a girl that was working the front door (selling some sort of offer dealing with prescriptions or something) greeted me with a simple, "Hello." I turned and looked at her and, lo and behold, she's pretty cute. I don't normally go for black chicks but there was something about her that intrigued me, so I flashed a smile at her and continued talking with her. Throw in some banter here and there and we're off to the races.

Now the one thing which I learned from the last Art of Rapport Workshop that I helped instruct at was this exercise that is similar to David Deida's "Soul Gazing" exercise. As a result of that exercise I'm a LOT more conscious of my use of eye contact and it's actually a primary method of communication I use now on top of kino and proper body language. I could be talking about shopping for groceries with a girl now but if I've got her gaze just right I can intensify our connection without even kino'ing her.

Long story short with the Rite-Aid chick: our whole interaction had extended periods of "soul gazing" while talking about whatever and I could feel how "hot" this interaction was right in my chest. It's the kind of fuzzy feeling I get while sexing chicks and I'm pretty sure she was feeling it, too, just by looking in her eyes and at her body language. She was a pretty guarded individual, though, so securing a day2 was difficult. I invited her to meet me for coffee near my workplace at 5:00pm this afternoon; if she shows up, great, if not, well I'll be out there enjoying a coffee and some 90-degree sunshine (and maybe the company of another cute chick that may be seated outside? Who knows.).