Giveth and taketh away

You know sometimes the Universe perplexes me. It will both give you a gift and then take it away in the same breath and somehow I'm sure there's a lesson to be learned in there somewhere.

So yesterday I was running around (literally) doing some minor errands when I decided to stop by the Robek's near my apartment. While there I spot this cute Korean chick hop in line at Robek's right after I finish. I go outside and chill for a second since Robek's is LOUD and experience has taught me to exercise some patience in such situations. After a couple minutes she exits Robek's which gives me a chance at a better look at her. She's not the typical kind of Korean I go for -- she's thick (not fat, as evidenced by her waist and stomach; more along the lines of Reubenesque) -- but she has a cute face and she certainly knows how to move.

She sits down at a table outside with her books and her cup of ice cream. Cool. I stand up and approach her, get her smiling and laughing a bit, and start the dance of getting to know her.

Now here's the rub which I've been experiencing lately to a high degree: I go for the day2 and she's basicaly got a booked schedule. This particular girl works 2 jobs and is studying for her MCATs and only has free time after 11:00pm, MAYBE. I back off and go back into a Rapport conversation then revisit the idea of us hanging out again, to which she's still unable to offer a better solution. I take her phone number, chat for another minute, then bid her adieu.

What is it with the Universe giving me awesome chicks that I like and then making it near-impossible for me to see them? Seriously. I don't get it. To say its frustrating would be understating things.

I don't even have a real solution for this problem, to be honest. I've had to cut bait on several other chicks in recent memory because of scheduling conflicts and it sucks since I don't find THAT many chicks Attractive in that gut-level sense of the word. With this particular Korean chick I *could* try to set something up for after 11pm but that's a long shot because, hey, I have a life I have to lead too.

HurryDate at Ritual

Since my schedule's been pretty tight at work I'd decided to explore other avenues of socializing. A friend had to told me about HurryDate and I decided to give it a whirl; I'd never done speed dating before and want to check it out. This particular event was being held at Ritual, where White Lotus used to be.

"But J," you may ask, "aren't you a PUA that can bed HB11's at the drop of a dime?" </sarcasm> I'll be the first to admit that recently the girls I've been interacting with in bars and lounges have been... less-than-ideal for a myriad number of reasons. Maybe it's the environment, maybe it's them, who knows. I thought this would be fun to try out and see how the quality of girls at an event like this is.

I'll say this much for the events I've gone to so far (tonight included): it's a crap shoot. Of the 20-some-odd girls that were there maybe 4 of them were attractive physically. I talked to all 4 of those chicks and there was just something... not there. I can't put my finger on it. It may be that the type of girls that speed date are either (A) too busy to socialize normally or (B) are peculiar in some other fashion that prevents them from being social on a regular basis. In any case the 4 cute chicks all had personality quirks that just didn't do it for me:

1. Reagan (yes like the ex-president): Just a weird personality. Very abrasive, negative, odd.
2. Abi (sp?): Hot Iranian chick. Libra. The sparks just weren't there.
3. Evelyn: Asian Dental Hygenist from Monrovia. Boring.
4. M____ (I forgot her name): too quiet, was like pulling teeth trying to get some Rapport with her. Arguably the hottest chick at the event. Tall, blonde, late 20's. Marketing consultant that lived in some city near the 5 and 170 freeway.

All in all I'm pleased with myself for trying this out and being social tonight to try and make up for the hot Korean that walked in and out of my life TWICE this afternoon. Confused I need to take this momentum and carry it into the weekend. Hopefully work won't sap my mojo.

"No?" or "Not Yet?"

I've recently been forcing interactions less and less and letting the Universe guide me where I need to be. It can be exhilirating most times, where every interaction becomes an adventure. Other times, though, it can be an exercise in patience.

I've been flirting with this one girl at work on and off for the past several months. I know the whole, "Don't sh!t where you eat" mantra quite well (as I almost got burned one time before at my current gig) so I'm very careful how and when I flirt with this current chick. I get the vibe that she's into me BUT things always come up that make us getting together (and ultimately, "getting together") a huge challenge right now.

If it's not one thing it's the other: her dog swallowed some push pins; I get sick the week I have free time; she has to fly up North to see her folks; I have to take care of some last-minute financial shit; SHE gets sick the day before; the list goes on and on. It's not like these are flakey behaviour kinds of things, I can accept that. It's more like the Universe is telling me "No" with this chick.

Or is it "Not Yet?"

I'm still not sure, since we seem to vibe really well. The frosted side of me is inclined to believe "Not Yet" because every time I shelf this as a learning experience it re-opens anew. Frustrating does not even BEGIN to describe how this feels.

All I can do, really, is keep looking elsewhere lest this situation drives me bananas.